Dr. Marie Metoyer: A remarkable life of faith and healing

March 12, 2020

By Katie Fiermonti | Photography by Jeff Dachowski

Excerpted with permission from Parable, a magazine of the New Hampshire diocese. [Editor’s note: Dr. Marie Metoyer died on March 17, 2020]

Dr. Marie Metoyer is a living legacy of faith, healing and service. A psychiatrist who specialized in community mental health, the mother of five has long advocated for women’s rights, racial equality and black scholarship. She became a Mercy Associate in New Hampshire in 2016 and is both a grandmother and a theater goer who loves the musical “South Pacific.”

Associate Marie Metoyer
Associate Marie Metoyer

Now 94, Marie has upheld the twin pillars of her life—healing and faith—ever since she was given the example by her mother, Dr. Lena Edwards, who received the Presidential Medal of Freedom in 1964 for championing those same values.

Consider that Marie was New Hampshire’s first African-American female psychiatrist. She has also received numerous honors, including the state’s 2008 Martin Luther King Award and a 2012 service award by U.S. Senator Jeanne Shaheen. What drives her is her Catholic faith.

“God put me on this Earth to become what I could, and to do it in his honor,” says Marie, noting that her great-grandfather, a freed slave named Gabriel Coakley, helped found St. Augustine’s Church in Washington, D.C., during the Civil War.

Gabriel, whose wife, Genevieve, was a seamstress for Mary Todd Lincoln, took a group of Catholics to the White House in June 1864 to ask President Abraham Lincoln for permission to hold a picnic on the White House lawn to raise money to build the first black Catholic Church in the nation’s capital. Lincoln agreed and was said to have attended the event with his wife.

Since then, Gabriel’s descendants have regarded faith and educational excellence as essential to success. Nowhere in the family tree was that more evident than Marie’s own mother. Lena graduated from Howard University Medical School in 1921, married fellow physician, Dr. Keith Madison, and opened her own practice in Jersey City, New Jersey, where she cared primarily for poor and immigrant families. She delivered more than 5,000 babies, became one of the first National Board-certified black female obstetrician-gynecologists in the country, and raised six children of her own.

Marie holds her associate pin
Marie holds her associate pin

A daily communicant, Lena enrolled her children at a predominantly Irish parish school. “She made us aware we were capable, and there was the idea that you had to be at 110 percent,” recalls Marie. “There was great expectation that you would live up to your race and your church.”

Lena separated from her husband in 1947 and joined the Third Order of St. Francis. She taught at Howard and, inspired by her faith, did missionary work in Hereford, Texas, where she founded a maternity hospital and ministered to migrant farmers. For this pioneering work, President Lyndon Johnson awarded her the Presidential Medal of Freedom.

Marie, Lena’s oldest child, studied at Cornell School of Medicine, where she met and married her husband, Victor, a former seminarian. One of Cornell’s first black female graduates, Marie spent nearly two decades working as a physician alongside her mother at her Jersey City obstetrics practice. “It was an honor to work with her,” she says.

But the race riots and turmoil of the late 1960s prompted Marie and Victor to rethink New Jersey life. President John F. Kennedy had championed community mental health, and his words reverberated with Marie, who had seen firsthand the need for good mental health care. The family moved to Vermont, where Marie did a psychiatry residency, and then to New Hampshire, where she worked at the Greater Manchester Mental Health Center until her 1996 retirement. Victor died in 2003.

While working in Manchester, Marie met Sister Mary Alice Cassidy, who became her friend and suggested she become an associate. What attracted her to Mercy, says Marie, is the sisters’ “open, welcoming spirit and care for those less fortunate.” She adds, “It [is] a group bringing me closer to God, and as I am getting older, I wanted to be closer to him.”

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  1. Fran Repka

    A beautiful story of a courageous woman.
    Thank you for being Mercy!

  2. Sr.Cathleen Cahill

    You are a model of Mercifulness, Marie. Thank you for being part of us.
    Cathleen Cahill, RSM

  3. Louise Foisy,

    Thank you for sharing more of your exemplary life story and that of your ancestors with us. You are as courageous as you are faith filled, kind and generous. I hope to see you at our annual retreat.

  4. Martha Larsem

    What a wonderful life. I am grateful that she enriched Mercy

  5. Barbara Stasio

    I so enjoyed reading about Marie and her family. Their dedication and perseverance to help others throughout their lives is beyond amazing. Truly they did God’s work and Marie still is at the age of 94! God Bless You, Marie! Thank you for all the service you have given to God’s children.

  6. Sheila Harrington

    So glad Marie is one with Mercy.

  7. Sr. Marie McIntyre rsm

    You are a truly merciful family Thank you for sharing your stories.

  8. Sr. Richard Mary Burke, RSM

    Marie, having known and also been inspired by Sr. Alice Cassidy, I am deeply touched by the fidelity and steadfastness of your commitment to serve those who are among the most vulnerable in our society.
    Thank you for the gifts of your faith and genuineness in bringing forth your gifts on a daily basis. We are all blessed to know of your goodness and your association in Mercy!
    Richard Mary Burke, RSM

  9. Donald Metoyer

    Thanks for sharing!!

  10. Jacquelyne K Weatherspoon

    She was my friend, guardian and mentor in my political life. The Hon. Jackie K. Weatherspoon, Exeter

  11. Patty McGarvey Knebels, Mercy Associate

    LOVE this amazing woman!!

  12. Valerie Manseau

    Wonderful article about an amazing woman. I feel blessed to have known her.

  13. Mrs. Dolly Shiepe

    Dear Wonderful Family of Marie:
    I am blest to have met Marie at Meetinghouse in Manchester, NH.
    She was a blessing to me and to all the residents who took part in our Sunday Eucharistic Prayer Services. She was kind, and loving and always willing to proclaim God’s Holy word to all. She spoke with loving assurance and offered praise and thanksgiving to her God. She was sincere and genuine and had a gentle and soothing way that was all her own.
    I will surely miss her but will always remember her very kind smile and manner, always willing to help at our Sunday Services.
    We can all be assured that her God came to meet her to bring her
    to her eternal home. I can hear these words and may they be a comfort to you…”Well down good and faithful one, come and enter into the home of my Father”. I am sad, and I send my condolences to all of you. May her memory be eternal. May her soul and the souls of all our faithful departed through the mercy of God rest in peace. Amen.